Our Approach

Build better relationships

Rules and relationships

Relationships need boundaries. It is much easier to get on with building better relationships once we all know where we stand. We’ll show you how to draw your line and hold your line, so you can nurture with structure.


Everyone needs to agree on an approach. Consistency across school is hard to achieve but, by gum, it’s worth it. We’ll help you do it.


Pupils need to know what is expected of them. It should be as clear a drawing a chalk line down the middle of the classroom and asking a class to stand on one side of it. For every instruction that is given, everyone should know who’s making the right choice and who’s not.


We can only build relationships when pupils know they are being treated fairly. That’s why we’ll help you share your expectations clearly and give you a simple and fair way to deliver small consequences and fair rewards.


Many of our behavioural interactions are dripping with emotion: anger, disappointment, frustration, exasperation. We’ll show you how to save all your emotional energy for teaching, and you’ll see how this helps you build better relationships.

The art of building better relationships

There is a belief that building relationships with children can’t be taught. This belief is correct; every adult who works with children builds relationships in different ways. What can be taught, though, is the method for creating the best environment in which these relationships can grow and develop.


We’ll help you create an environment where adults are confident that their instructions will be followed but have a clear plan for when children choose not to follow them. It’s an environment where children respect adults because they are treated with respect and where children understand the reasons why instructions are given. They also know that they will receive oodles of genuine and specific recognition, and that supportive consequences will be delivered fairly and consistently. This confidence in the system lies at the heart of building relationships.

Preventive strategies won’t work for everyone

This is so important to remember. When the data says that our whole-school preventive strategies aren’t working, it’s time for another set of strategies. That’s why we like the multi-tiered approach.

Find out more about how great relationships start with consistency.

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